Is Your Life Full of Why?

Recently, my friend had mentioned to me that "Life is so boring, so monotonous. Time just passed day by day, week by week. The things that we did are like a routine. Life is so boring."


The other day, my GM had said to me, "We must do planning. We can't do things at the last moment. We must be proactive rather than reactive."


These two incidents struck a common cord even though one is talking about personal life while the other one is talking about work.


Regardless it is personal life or work, the very first question we need to ask ourselves is, "What do I want to accomplish?" Do you want to be successful in your career, your family ties or your love for helping other people?


The second question is to ask yourself, "What am I going to do? What am I willing to do continuously?" If you want to be successful in your career, what is your guideline in being successful? What position do you want to reach? What are you going to do to reach that position?"

The third question is to ask yourself, "What are the skills, experience, character or qualifications do I need to have to achieve my goals?" Regardless of what you lack of, you need time to build on it. This does not happen overnight. You need to go through a process to achieve what you want.

With a plan in place, you need to carry out your plan accordingly and do necessary adjustments to move toward your goal. A plan without action is equal to no reaction, no results. Success doesn't happen overnight. It is through continuous action then you will be able to move slowly toward your goal.


Whatever you want to achieve, it lies in your hand. Nobody can control what you want to achieve. If you are determined to get something and ask for it, people will give you what you want rather than you hope people will give you what you hope to have.

It is always the first step that is the hardest. So take some time today and ask yourself "Why?" Your reason "Why" to achieve your goals will determine your success or failure in achieving your goal. So remember, your "Why" must be unshakable and intensified. So strong that nothing can stop you achieving what you want in your life.

If you like to find out more about this topic so that you can be better day by day and find life to be more meaningful, you can check this book out. Its title is "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People By Stephen Covey". As the name implies, there are seven habits that one must follow. The seven habits are "Be Proactive, Begin with the End in Mind, Put First Things First, Think Win/Win, Seek First to Understand, then be Understood, Synergize and last but not least, Sharpen the Saw."

After you finished reading this book, you can proceed to read "The 8th Habit By Stephen Covey". The 8th habit is on leadership and tells you how do you influence others as well, to take a more proactive approach to take charge of one's life or one's job.

Hope that you find these two books useful and enjoy reading.

You Are The Leader

"Tell me, and I'll forget.

Show me, and I'll remember.

Involve me, and I'll learn."

By Maria Jones

"Prosperity is a great teacher;

Adversity is a greater one."

By William Hazlitt, essayist

"If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more

And become more, you are a leader."

By John Quincy Adams, 6th US President

"The CEO's role in raising a company's corporate IQ

is to establish an atmosphere that promotes knowledge sharing and collaboration."

By Bill Gates, Microsoft Founder

"You don't concentrate on risks.

You concentrate on results.

No risk is too great to prevent the necessary job from getting done."

By Chunk Yeager, pilot

"Destiny is no matter of chance.

It is a matter of choice.

It is not a thing to be waited for,

it is a thing to be achieved."

By William Jennings Bryan, Secretary of State

"Learn how to be happy with what you have

while you pursue all that you want."

By Jim Rohn

"Age wrinkles the body.

Quitting wrinkles the soul."

By Douglas MacArthur, US General

"Thinking is easy, acting is difficult,

and to put one's thoughts into action is the most difficult thing in the world."

Johann Wolfgang van Goethe, German Playwright

"We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing,

while others judge us by what we have already done."

By Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, poet

A C T I O N

"I didn't get to where I am

by thinking about it or dreaming about it.

I got there by doing it."

By Estee Lauder

"Out of clutter,

find simplicity.

From discord,

find harmony.

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity."

By Albert Einstein

"The truely successful person inspires others

to do more than they have thought possible for themselves."

By Denis Waitley

"Never tell people how to do things.

Tell them what to do

and they will surprise you with their ingenuity."

By George S Patton

"It is not failure itself that holds you back;

it is the fear of failure that paralyzes you."

By Brian Tracy

"Creativity is so delicate a flower that praise tends to make it bloom,

while discouragement often nips it in the bud.

Any one of us will put out more and better ideas

if our efforts are appreciated."

By Alexander Osbum

"Motivation gets you going

and habit gets you there.

Make motivation a habit and you will get there more quickly

and have more fun on the trip."

By Zig Ziglar

"Thoughts lead to feelings.

Feelings lead to actions.

Actions lead to results."

By T Harv Eker

"What comes out of your mouth

is determined by

what gets into your mind."

By Zig Ziglar

"Everyone wants to be appreciated.

So if you appreciate someone,

don't keep it a secret."

By Mary Kay Ash, Entrepreneur

Why I can't seem to get what I want?

You tell yourself you want to do Action A. You tell yourself you want to do Action B. You also tell yourself you want to do Action C and D.

But ...

But ...

Action A, B, C and D did not produce the results that you want to have. You are back to the same square spot.

Why?

Why?

and lots of why, why and why?

Never mind, it's OK. You tell yourself. "I will change my action. So now I will do Action AA, Action BB, Action CC and Action DD and see the results."

Time passed. Time gone. Still no results.

"Aarrgghh. Why is it like that? Why did I do wrong? Can anybody advise me? I GIVE UP! FORGET ABOUT IT!"

So what did you do wrong?

Mr. John Gray can give you the answer through one of his books - How To Get What You Want And Want What You Have

Personal success is measured by how good you feel about yourself, your actions and your assets and it also requires you to have a detailed understanding of how to create the life that you want.

There are 4 steps to personal success. You need to set your intention by evaluating where you are now and where you want to go. You need to plan the action plan to get what you want by first knowing what is missing. Finally you need to remove the blockages that you have that deter you from achieving personal success. Examples of blockages are blame, depression, confusion and indecision.

For more details, please read How To Get What You Want And Want What You Have By John Grey

Besides the gist mentioned above, you also need 10 love vitamins to achieve personal success.

The 10 love vitamins are:-

• Vitamin G: Love from God
• Vitamin P: Love from Parents
• Vitamin F: Love from family, friends and have fun
• Vitamin P: Love from peers and others like us with similar goals
• Vitamin S: Love from ourselves
• Vitamin R: Love from intimate relationships, partnerships and romance
• Vitamin D: Love from someone who is dependent on us
• Vitamin C: Giving back to our communities
• Vitamin W: Giving back to the world
• Vitamin G: Serving God

Please read How To Get What You Want And Want What You Have By John Grey

Topics such as meditation, stress, negative emotions, resistance and desires are also covered in details in the book How To Get What You Want And Want What You Have By John Grey.

Don't miss a good book such as this book.